“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church…Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her….” Ephesians 5:22, 23
Like all His gifts, God gave us marriage for our happiness and for our good. It’s a more sacred relationship than any of us can comprehend — so sacred God compares it to the relationship Christ has with His own church, which is also referred to as His body. That’s how close the relationship can be. From the beginning marriage was meant to be a “leaving,” “cleaving,” and becoming one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)
In the passage above where marriage is compared to the relationship between Christ and His church, it mentions that “Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her…that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.” (Ephesians 5:25-27)
Is there any more beautiful picture of a virgin bride? Is there any woman who wouldn’t like to see herself as that bride, presented to her husband as “glorious, holy, without blemish?” Isn’t that why wedding dresses are traditionally white, indicating purity?
Men and women who wait until marriage to engage in sexual activity give each other a marvelous gift. If they are blessed enough to be married a long time, their bond will be stronger knowing that sexual intimacy is a part of their relationship they’ve never shared with anyone else. He’ll respect her for keeping herself pure for him. She’ll honor him because he disciplined himself in anticipation of their marriage. In our promiscuous society, such a gift is even more valuable because of its rarity.
God’s laws regarding His gifts to us are not arbitrary. May we encourage our single friends and family members to live within the boundaries God has set and therefore reap the benefits of His wisdom.