Marriage: A Gift from God

“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church…Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her….” Ephesians 5:22, 23

Like all His gifts, God gave us marriage for our happiness and for our good. It’s a more sacred relationship than any of us can comprehend — so sacred God compares it to the relationship Christ has with His own church, which is also referred to as His body. That’s how close the relationship can be. From the beginning marriage was meant to be a “leaving,” “cleaving,” and becoming one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)

In the passage above where marriage is compared to the relationship between Christ and His church, it mentions that “Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her…that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.” (Ephesians 5:25-27)

Is there any more beautiful picture of a virgin bride? Is there any woman who wouldn’t like to see herself as that bride, presented to her husband as “glorious, holy, without blemish?” Isn’t that why wedding dresses are traditionally white, indicating purity?

Men and women who wait until marriage to engage in sexual activity give each other a marvelous gift. If they are blessed enough to be married a long time, their bond will be stronger knowing that sexual intimacy is a part of their relationship they’ve never shared with anyone else. He’ll respect her for keeping herself pure for him. She’ll honor him because he disciplined himself in anticipation of their marriage. In our promiscuous society, such a gift is even more valuable because of its rarity.

God’s laws regarding His gifts to us are not arbitrary. May we encourage our single friends and family members to live within the boundaries God has set and therefore reap the benefits of His wisdom.

Alone, but Not Lonely

I will travel from birth to death alone. No one lives inside my brain, occupies the same space or views events exactly like I do. Even if I had an identical twin, she would not always be beside me, nor always share or even understand my thoughts.

As I grew up, I experienced new situations alone: walking “by myself”; entering kindergarten “by myself”; driving for the first time “by myself”; marrying “by myself,” leaving the only family I had known. In a certain sense, I am alone. No other human being can know me or understand me wholly.

But am I lonely? No.

There is One who has been there from before my birth – One who has seen what I’ve seen, been where I’ve been, known all the people I’ve ever known, One who can remember personal experiences I’ve forgotten that have formed my personality and character. He understands me. He loves me. He wants the best for me. He is anxious for me to know, understand and love Him. And He wants me to live with Him for eternity.

The only way it’s possible for me to be with Him is to become like Him – pure and free from sin. He sacrificed part of Himself to make that possible. He gave His only Son.

I would pray the prayer of David, King of Israel:

O LORD, you have searched me and you know me.

You discern my going out and my lying down;

You are familiar with all my ways.

Before a word is on my tongue you know it completely, O LORD.

Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; too lofty for me to attain.

Where can I flee from your presence?

If I go up to the heavens, you are there;

If I make my bed in the depths, you are there.

If I rise on the wings of the dawn,

If I settle on the far side of the sea,

Even there your hand will guide me,

Your right hand will hold me fast.

Search me, O God, and know my heart;

Test me and know my anxious thoughts.

See if there is any offensive way in me,

And lead me in the way everlasting.

from Psalm 139